When I started to think about books, I just started to pay really close attention to TV commercials. It’s crazy to have cat litter boxes, detergents and ads for stainless steel cleaners, and people are all beautiful! It has nothing to do with the way things clean my fridge and take the grunge off the dishes.
Much of the economy depends on us not feeling good enough. Then we try to buy or realize our way, and they go together because most people get money to buy things by doing. You don’t have time to focus on building a strong community or have patience. It seems that it is necessary now to be happy.
How did you decide which practices are worth recommending?
I did a great review of third wave behavior therapy for depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. In particular, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I started from there because they all have very good randomized controlled trials and a strong evidence base. These things change behavior and experience.
Then I looked at the psychology of research. Therefore, while not clinically effective, what are good predictors of life, or predictors of achievement, when measuring undergraduates in the lab or in acute situations? I sought wisdom. What were the Stoics talking about? What were the Buddhists talking about? What were the Taoists talking about? You start to see these same patterns and themes appear.
Then in the report I spoke to those who now seem entrenched, and often those who have had times when they weren’t. I asked, “What has changed? What do you practice? ” I started to listen to all these themes.
I’ve read a lot of the books you cite, but it’s interesting to say that like Laozi 2,500 years later, psychology and personal development books are repeating themselves. ..
When I was fed up with OCD and being treated, I looked at these principles. For me it was really amazing. I read Mark Epstein’s book [Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart]And I think, “What hell. Everything I have done in therapy is Buddhism. Buddha wrote cognitive behavioral therapy. Your thoughts, feelings, and sensations are all separate processes. You can see them. You can part with it.
So I started to say, “What does the stoic say? It’s probably a less user-friendly setting, but it’s all the same. Taoism? All the same, these acceptances and commitments [therapies], Cognitive Behavioral Therapy because they are called cutting edge therapies and in some ways they are the first psychotherapies to be looked at and show good results, but the content is quite state of the art. Not. It’s just ancient wisdom.
Your coaching client speaks towards the end of the book. He smartly knows everything he needs to feel the reasoning, but he can’t let them do it himself. I think we are all that person! We know what to do and we have a hard time doing it. Why do you think?
I think part of it is human. We’ve changed a lot in the way we are lazy and want to save energy, and hacks are definitely fascinating for that. When you are in the savannah and suffering from starvation and a constant lack of calorie restriction, you should do all you can to save energy. Then if you can get a big hit, you eat it and start saving energy again. It’s just wiring.